E. 125/Park Ave. Saturday. 2/29

Since October 2, much more has happened than I can put in one blog post. I won’t burden you all with updates about my life as of yet, instead I would like to write some thoughts down about outreach in Harlem today.


For the past two months or more I’ve been leading outreaches in Harlem every Saturday since the closing of our Harlem outreach on Fridays. We have decided to focus more resources and energy on our Friday co-op at the Salvation Army headquarters on w. 14th street and so we are only in Harlem on Saturday now, hence why I am almost always in Harlem on Saturday.

The past couple weeks have been extra cold on the weekends and today was no exception. Aside from the colder weather, we have had to move across the street (under some train tracks that divide Park Ave N/S) so we have had less guests stop by because they don’t see the bus in the old location. Our regulars have found the new location though and this week several of them were waiting for us to show up! As we started outreach, the temperature declined slowly. The sun barely came out and the wind was painful. What warmed my soul today was having the time to talk to two of our guests that we have served for a while that I have come to call my friends.

Carlos is known as Eddie Blanco on the street and he owns a motorcycle and is in a motorcycle club. He always shows up with a pair of sunglasses and a smile. He’s one of our friends who enjoys interacting with our volunteers and is only there to hang out. We were talking about his life and he told me that he really enjoyed coming to the bus and being with his friends.

“Ben,” he said, “You are a really great f***ing guy, you know that? Excuse my language but you’re just such a f***ing solid brother.”

*I’ve only ever talked to Eddie for about 5 minutes at a time during the whirlwind that is outreach, and I’d never sat down with him one on one.*

As I smiled and thanked him he shook my hand and continued to tell me how he would always look out for us at the relief bus and that if there were ever any punches thrown that he would throw them right back and that he’d “go down” with us if it came to that. Whereas you might be thinking about what awful language he used, I’m thinking about how much the relief bus has made an impact on people like Eddie. Even though I haven’t spent much time with him in conversation, he still feels so strongly about how “good” I am. He’s just a rough and tumble dude looking for a place to be accepted. He has found that at the bus.

The second great conversation was with a good bro named Sharif. I’ve sat down with him twice and know that he has a wife and a couple kids. I hadn’t asked him why he is in Harlem before and today the question came across my mind so I asked. He told me that he gets his dose of Methadone at the nearby clinic. I was surprised because he has a pretty high dose but I never noticed him acting in any way that would elude to it. He talked about how he was on heroin for a while and didn’t have a steady income so he would use everything he got in order to get his next fix. He started doing things that he never thought he would in order to get money for his addiction, all while being with his wife. He told me that if it hadn’t had been for his wife, he would most certainly be dead by now. About a year ago he woke up one day and decided that he didn’t want to live his life that way any longer and used his medicaid to get on methadone. By God’s grace he hasn’t had the urge to go back to the drug.

“I’ll never use that drug again in my life.” He said defiantly and I applauded him for taking the step to get on methadone and get clean. He plans on slowly getting off methadone but knows that is a long process. I told him about how I had been addicted to pornography for a long time and knew something about the vicious cycle that addiction puts us in. I love encouraging my friends on the street and when I can empathize with them it makes the connection even deeper. It was the first time that I had gone so deep with Sharif and I am grateful.

A cold Saturday in February. An old retro-fitted bus. A crew of rag-tag leaders and volunteers. Hurting and broken people serving and being served. The Gospel being played out in East Harlem.




New Wine

“In the crushing
In the pressing
You are making
New wine
In the soil, I
Now surrender
You are breaking
New ground”

New Wine – Hillsong


This update comes to you at an interesting time in my life. As Christians we talk frequently about “trials” and “valleys”. So much so that many of us roll our spiritual eyes when hearing them and have either consciously or subconsciously put words like those into boxes and put those boxes on the back shelves of our minds, not wanting to open them. I won’t use those words, but by the tone of this blog you should be able to figure out that that’s exactly what I’m talking about!

Let me preface that by saying that this has been one of the most truly joy-filled times of my life! God is so faithful to his word; in his timing and in his way. This is so often a mystery to us and we don’t understand his work in and through our lives until after it is accomplished. God’s timing in this period of my life has been some of the most encouraging, affirming, uplifting and blessed experiences ever! I have felt closer to God in the past couple months than I ever have before. He has shown his face over and over when all other hope had been lost. In his presence there has been fullness of joy!

SO, it’s been tough people! Ministry done right is rarely ever easy, it’s draining on every level from inside out. My work with NYCR is no exception and continues to be a challenge. Challenges aren’t bad! I have learned so much through God’s already established and continuing work with the homeless in NYC. I have been blessed over and over to be one of the workers that has been tasked with going out into the ripe harvest! The emotional toll has been increased lately which has been taxing but there is nothing that God has called me too that he hasn’t and won’t bring me through. His promise is sure. Alongside this public ministry I have now been called into personal ministry.

Ti Chou! Oh what a joy! Love has been teaching me so much about love, how to do it well, how to emulate Christ, what not to do. These have been learning experiences in themselves but I am thrilled to be accredited with the worthiness of coming alongside, encouraging, teaching, learning from and walking with such a beautiful manifestation of Christ’s love for me. Learning about your own faults through the sanctification of love can be tough at times, and it has been, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. My relationship to and with Lauren has been the single most unfiltered picture of sanctification in my life. I can feel it. I do feel it. Coming up against your inconsistencies and failures is never a welcome fleshly experience, but the feeling of the outer self wasting away as the inner self is being renewed makes the spirit radiant!

My overarching point is that I’ve been tired. I’ve been emotionally spent. But it has been simultaneously watering me and making us flourish. Behold! I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?

You bet we do!

I need to cherish and hold in remembrance this time for me, for us. God is building in us an unbreakable and even an unshakeable foundation! I feel like I have been digging through and cleaning off dust that I have allowed to settle and finding that I am standing on the Strongest of Rocks, the Largest of Mountains. All my life You have been faithful! We are singing of the goodness of God!

This is wildly fun.

This is fiercely good.

This can not be done in our strength and knowledge.

This is sanctification.


Please pray for me! I need strength. I need God to continually pour into me his love and heart for people both on the street and at home. I am nothing without Him! Please also pray for Lauren and I as we seek guidance and direction for a great myriad of things that together define our future. We are nothing without Him!

Mesi anpil!

Avek lanmou,


Life, love, and work

Lately I feel like I have started blog posts with “it’s been a while.”

Welp, this one is no different.

A bunch of things have been going on in my life and heart since the last post and for sake of time, I’ll just update quickly. As my wise uncle told me on Friday night, my posts don’t need to be long and detailed all the time! Sometimes people don’t have time or desire to read a novella haha.

Adam is married! Oh happy day! It was an amazing event with so much family and friends this past Saturday. My mom’s extended family is quite massive and spread out across the states so we don’t get to see each other very often. Needless to say it was great catching up with some of my most loved and valued family this past weekend. It was sweet to be able to support my twin and be surrounded by so many loved ones to celebrate life and love!

I had the utmost pleasure getting to introduce and show off Lauren to my extended family, who (of course) absolutely love her. It was an extra blessing on top of my twin getting married for me to be able to have her by my side and connect her to some of the people who have prayed the most fervently into my future. We had such amazingly deep and real spiritual conversation with some of my uncles!

We had a two week vacation from work at the end of August which was full of travel and great times with friends. I went to Austin with the old crew (Adam, Scott, Raph, Danny, and Scott’s cousin Paul) to visit Raph who now lives there and to celebrate Adam getting married. Austin is a cool place with so much to do and such great food! The weather was pretty hot which was nice for ya boy too 🙂

The next week Lauren and I took a road trip to Chicago and stayed with one of her best friends from high school and her husband. We had an amazing time exploring the city as well as going to the beach (highly recommend doing in the summer) and just getting to be with and learn more about each other.

Looping back to this weekend, Sunday was Lauren’s birthday so we went to her parents beach house (!!!) and spent time with her Abuela and grandpa and two of her closest friends who live in NYC. It was a sweet relaxing time just celebrating another year of life and blessings and I was of course super happy to be there.

Work has already been so good since coming back from the break and I have in mind to post in length about this past Thursday’s events at some other time. I am so grateful and humbled to be able to come alongside God in the work that he is doing in the lives of his children in NYC!!


Aside from that I petition your prayers once again, this time mainly for Lauren and I. We need all the prayer we can get!! We need clarity and vision about moving forward into our future together and have been processing everything often. There are many parts that are uncertain but we feel that God has been blessing us over and over again! We know that we need to keep our eyes on Him and trust in his plan for us but as you all know, that can be hard sometimes. Most of all, we desire to do this right and know that the Enemy desires the opposite.

If we got a chance to catch up this past weekend, thank you! I cherished each conversation.

As always,

Mesi anpil!

Ti Chou

I realize it’s been a while since I posted anything on here about life, love, and the pursuit of happiness… so here goes!

Work has been pretty good recently. There have been many praise reports for me personally from the people I have talked to over time on the street. I am constantly being stretched as a leader and a follower of Christ at this job. There is no room for lukewarm faith here so I have had to play catch up with the level at which God wants me to operate while in NYC. Every day is a challenge.. Every day! If you’ve been here (this blog or in my life) long enough, you know that I have tendencies to shy away from leadership and generally want to take the easy way out. Every day is at least a small struggle for me in that aspect because even if I don’t act on the feeling, it’s still there. I still would rather just return home and watch the office for the 3rd time while eating buffalo wings instead of be a leader to people and intimately talk about the effects of evil in people’s lives. But by God’s grace I continue to show up and he continues to teach me and speak through me and speak TO me. Every day I wake up with breath in my lungs and sanity in my mind I am awed by how God continues to use me.

I am pretty much in the swing of things at NYCR and have just a couple of extras to nail down before I am fully integrated into the outreach system. I had a break down a couple weeks ago when everything came to a head, the physical exhaustion, the emotional drain, the spiritual warfare; but all without relying on God for strength and renewal each day. I realized that I hadn’t been giving God the time of day and therefore had no charger for my spiritual and emotional batteries. I felt the urge to commit my mornings afresh to God and spend time in his presence and before him. The Psalmist says, “In your presence there is fullness of joy, at your right hand are pleasures forever more” and I have found that to be true over the past month. I have been in such a better place emotionally and spiritually since committing to waking up an hour early each day and starting on my knees before the throne. If you haven’t had the energy to do life lately I suggest you take a little bit less time to sleep and a little more time in devotion to our Source of everything! You won’t regret it.

LASTLY and possibly most importantly. God has been moving in crazy and mysterious ways in my life recently and in the life of a coworker Lauren W. We have had time over the past few months to hang out and get to know each other a little bit, but this past weekend we decided to pursue dating! We both have pain and scars of the past but God is so amazing and loving to gently heal those using each other. Just the other night we had the craziest experience ever involving part of her past and it couldn’t have gone better. The salvation from and healing towards that was felt to the core as we processed together what had just happened. We haven’t told too many people yet outside of our work family, so there it is! The funniest and most mysterious thing is how we are total opposites.. I always heard that “opposites attract” but I never believed it until now. There is so much that I want to say about her but I will leave that to the future for now. There’s no way I could have ever planned her, or this, in my life. The healing that God has already done via each other in our lives is amazing. That’s how you know it’s a God thing.

I look forward to everyone meeting this precious soul in the near future 🙂

To not end on a note that makes me sound crazy, I implore each one of you to pray for me as I open yet another door into the future. First and foremost I need prayer for guidance. Guidance in my emotions and my decisions when it comes to Lauren. I also need prayer for the Holy Spirit to lead me in my “dealings” as I like to call them, with her each and every day. I want to honor and respect her for the daughter and heiress that she is and that doesn’t come naturally. I need prayer for deliverance over my sin and for continued purity. I need prayer for patience as I want to go fast. I need prayer for continued deep peace about our relationship that I have already been blessed with!

We are so excited to see what God is going to continue to do in our lives and how he plans on doing it!



Frustrating Love

As I tap the ash off of my cigar and mull over the past 14 hours, I am struck yet again by the overwhelmingly consistent yet often frustrating and mysterious love of God for people.

You see, God’s love isn’t convenient. It doesn’t ever take the easy way. And that’s often annoying to me. I’ll be the first to tell you that generally I’m a selfish person. If we are all brutally honest with ourselves and our affections and desires we’d all come to the conclusion that we are selfish. There are times, moments, tastes of selflessness but they are vastly outnumbered by selfish motivations and actions. I’m no different.

God has placed me at NYCR in part, to teach me to face my selfish heart and slowly, consistently work on and change it. While our 30 year anniversary block party was raging on today in Harlem, I sat down, much against my own selfish will, with a 78 year old man and invest in his life for about an hour.

Life care visits (LCVs), as we call them, are one-on-one deep dives into the lives of people struggling with homelessness or poverty and are a huge part of what we do as an outreach leader for NYCR. Oftentimes long and detailed LCVs can be very taxing emotionally, mentally, or spiritually: today’s was no different. I had to meticulously go over information with this man who needed me to write it down as well because he has a bad memory and was afraid he would forget it as soon as he walked down the block. I didn’t know this information and so it was somewhat frustrating to my selfish self to have to take the time to care for him in this way. The information that I went over with him was supposed to give him several types of senior housing options he could get in NYC, assuming he had insurance. When the information had been passed on and written down I set him up an email so we could check his medicaid status. He told us he has gone to the HRA offices in the area several times and hasn’t ever received any benefits or living assistance.  With his newly created email we tried to make him an account online to check the status of his aforementioned medicaid so I could advise him on next steps.

When it came time to enter his SS# in order to check the status, he told me he didn’t have a social security number. Come to find out he is undocumented and that explains why he hasn’t received any benefits from the government. The frustrating part for me was that he had already been asked if he was a citizen and he had said yes, and that’s why I was advised by a much more knowledgeable coworker to do what I had done for him. It was definitely a let down for me because if we had known this beforehand then I wouldn’t have had to use up as much of my outreach time trying to get futile information for him.

Now, I realize that that sounds incredibly selfish; see paragraph 2. It was definitely an upsetting realization that there was next to nothing that I could do for this man but in the moment I had a hard time not thinking that it had just been time wasted.

As my wise and God-fearing coworkers told me after, it hadn’t been time wasted. Nothing God does is wasted; even when we think that it is. I was given the chance to come alongside God in the encouragement and love that he wanted to display to this man in Harlem on a hot Saturday. In moments like these, my gut reaction is sin. My immediate thoughts are selfish.

I am wrong.

This elderly man hadn’t experienced the level of conciseness and dedication to getting information across to him and he made that very clear. He thanked me profusely for taking the time and explaining things and writing them down for him. He needed to be listened to and seen and heard and cared for today. I was given the opportunity to be God’s stand-in for all that in his life and I was complaining because it seemed like a waste to me in the moment. I am a bit stubborn when it comes to learning about who God is and how he operates. It’s just so beyond me that I don’t tend to think about his heart for a person or situation before thinking about my own.

God could have easily given that frustrating opportunity to uncover just a tad bit more of his heart to any of the other outreach leaders today in Harlem but he chose to give it to me. His love for this man was so far beyond mine that it frustrated me. The demonstration of His concern for and intentional entry into this man’s life wasn’t even close to what it truly is. Sometimes I feel like a baby who “needs spiritual milk” before being fed the meat that I should be eating as a mature believer.

God’s grace towards me today was equal if even more than towards this man in that, he chose to teach me. His lesson of love was the gentle uncovering of sin in my own heart towards what I was called too. When my selfishness gets in the way of what God is trying to work in someone, it’s frustrating because I don’t get it. Time spent just listening to and showing interest in and care for a struggling man’s situation isn’t fun. It’s not cheap. It’s actually very costly.

But that’s how God loves.

Lessons learned,

Constant grace poured out,




A Peek Into the Heart of God

Today I had an experience in Harlem that I never thought I’d have. Never in my sheltered, privileged life could I have imagined the experience I had today. Today God gave me the chance to love on a serial killer.

“Junior” came to the bus like many others just looking for interaction and food. Upon seeing that we advertise helping people get shelter and housing he asked to speak to one of us. By God’s grace I was free and sat down with him in the front of our retro-fitted mobile-soup-kitchen of a bus. He explained to me that he had recently had an operation where they cut off his toe due to a series of unfortunate events. To spare a long story becoming longer, I’ll nix the details. We ended up talking about his health issues for just a couple minutes and then the real conversation started.

He mentioned that he had gotten out of prison last year and due to this series of events had been hospitalized from November of last year until this past March. I asked the routine question with care;

“Do you mind if I ask what you were imprisoned for?”

He leaned in a little bit and replied softly (others were in earshot);

“for murder. several murders.”

When asking our guests that question I have heard many things but I hadn’t yet heard that. I listened quietly as he told me that he had killed 11 people and spent the past 37 years in prison. They wanted to initially give him the electric chair but he had people in his corner pleading for his case. Upon hearing a small part of the beginning of his story I was given just a tiny piece of understanding as to why he had decided to do what he did. “Junior” had been abused by his older brothers as a young child and then given drugs to cope with the hurt. I didn’t ask details and just let him tell what he wanted to. He had been imprisoned from the tender age of 14 and classified as a serial killer.

“I have to learn everything again.” He said, “Everything is new to me.”

My heart broke. I held back tears. Before me sat a 50 yr old man who had spent only 15 yrs outside of prison. The pain and torment he had endured and used to fuel his past decisions was tangible.

I gently poked at his heart.

“How have you been dealing with your pain since you got out? How is your heart?”

He said he had two people he relies on when things get tough on him mentally: his nephew and his son. He contacts them regularly and also has been taking medications for his mental health diagnoses. Along with a list of mental struggles he also has been burdened with a recent diagnosis of osteomyelitis which is, in short, why his toe got amputated. He also has cancer and a seizure disorder which was evident as soon as I sat down with him. His hands and face constantly twitched and often delayed a word or two from coming out of his mouth.

I felt God’s pain for the experiences this man had gone through. I felt his love and acceptance of him even though he had done many terrible things. I wanted to stay in that life care visit for much longer, I wanted to become his friend. God drove my heart towards him. God did, not me. That level of brokenness in a single human being I had never experienced first hand before, but God does every second of every day. I was given the tiniest taste of how God’s heart is broken for the broken.

After giving “Junior” some information about where he could go and who he could speak to about the needs he had, I asked about his faith. His answer gave me hope,

“I accepted Jesus last year” he said.

“How has that helped you since? Are you doing ok dealing with your struggles?”

“It’s been tough,” he said, “but it has helped me.”

He accepted prayer and I felt the Spirit stirring in me as God talked directly to him. The love of God is an overwhelming thing. It isn’t picky. It doesn’t hold back. IT RUNS towards the brokenness in all of us.

“Junior” is still struggling with mental and physical health problems, but he is struggling with the mightiest power under, behind, and above him. When he was with me he wasn’t depressed or sad or angry at his situation, he is just battling each day as it comes. Please join me in praying for continued healing and strengthened faith in God in the coming months and years as he looks to an unknown future. I believe his violent tendencies have been released by the overwhelming God.

It was only about 30 minutes of my day but when it was done I was wrecked. Sometimes being given a peek into the heart of God can do that to you. God hurts for the hurting. He weeps over trauma, no matter how massive or minute. He is a God that walks alongside those who have done wicked things (me and you) and waits for us to come running to him with his arms flung wide.

There is no darkness that the love of Christ can’t blind.


I’m just a broken man who’s been loved on so that I can continue loving on other broken people.




Learning to Love Better

It’s been a long week.

The crazy thing is, I only worked three days this week. We had our weekly office day on Tuesday and then I had off Wednesday and Thursday. I only did two street outreaches this week but the past two days felt like they made up for the two days of absence previously. Experiences from both yesterday and today taught me things I didn’t know about how to better love people.

God has been using this job to consistently teach me how to be a better follower of Him and how to be less selfish in the ways that I perceive what Love is. I’ll use several examples from the past 48 hours to help you understand.

Love looks like grace given when an angry passerby comes up to you and tells you that the food you serve to the people is “garbage.”

This lady came up to me and was complaining that we have been serving garbage to people for 30 years now and it needs to stop, it needs to change. Most of you don’t know what we serve so let me give you a little taste; we serve vegan soup that consists of water, our own blend of spices, kidney beans, canned diced vegetables, and parboiled rice (so it cooks while we are on the way to the outreach). We also serve bread that has been baked fresh early that morning from a Portuguese bakery in Newark who provides bread to some of the biggest companies in NJ (among them, Shoprite). We also serve fresh made fruit punch and lemonade as well as cold water for those who are diabetic. When told that our soup was vegan and what it consisted of, this lady turned on the drinks and scolded me for serving sugar to sick people. Did she have a point? Yes. Was it good? No. People like the options of water and a sugared drink. Many times they don’t get choices as homeless people because they are just given whatever whoever is serving them sees fit or has the money for. Choices are a small part of restoring the dignity of our friends on the street.

Love looks like grace given when another angry passerby takes pictures of your outreach and complains that we are illegally parked (technically true) as well as blocking pedestrian traffic with “lowlifes” (not true at all). We have been at this specific location for years and NYC police know that the work New York City Relief is doing is for the good of the city and is indeed helping people out of desperate situations into a better, fuller life. In short, it doesn’t matter that we were illegally parked. As to the other things this man had to say about our outreach, they were straight from the Enemy himself. God kept my cool as I listened to an angry, certainly sad and hurt, man spew utter darkness and lies about the people we help in Harlem. I was told that what we are doing in fact does Harlem harm because we are extending the lives of people who should be dying and thus leaving a better Harlem in their wake. I was told that we at NYCR are going against natural selection and not letting it weed out worthless people…

On a cheerier note, love looks like being able to be a part of shoing (verb) a homeless man who walked into our outreach without anything on his feet. They were badly blistered and looked painful but I’m not entirely sure this man was fully aware of his situation. Upon trying to talk to Greg he would listen and answer a question or two but then snap out of reality and start to laugh to himself and go back to eating and it would be hard to get his attention again. Once attention was once again procured, the same cycle would repeat. From what he told me he just wanders, uses the train, and that’s his life. He couldn’t tell me any specific area of the city he was familiar with and just answered with “I’m on the train and then I walk around.” It’s a miracle he came upon our outreach. A volunteer family that had introduced us was concerned for his feet and so I said I was going to walk down the block to a Payless to try and find him a pair of shoes. The husband wanted to come with me and buy the shoes if we found them. As we walked into the store we saw that they were closing and everything was 60-90% off! God is good! We got him a pair of foam-soled comfy Champions for the low price of just $12!!! As we were checking out, the volunteer who had accompanied me’s wife called him to say that Greg was wandering off. After asking them to try and keep him because we were checking out, I checked with the volunteer and returned back to the outreach quickly as he was continuing to check out, to try and catch Greg before he left. When I got back, the volunteer’s wife told me he had already walked off in a direction and I set out in pursuit with the new shoes. By God’s grace Greg hadn’t walked too far yet and I found him shortly after. I tried to explain that he had left too early and we had a pair of shoes for him but he didn’t seem to understand much of what I was conveying. We sat down in a bus stop and I encouraged him to try the shoes on even though they were a size too small than what he had said his size was (the store had been all but stripped clean because of the sales). He assured me with the first sane sentence that had come out of his mouth since meeting him that “they will do fit, they will do.” As he put the new shoes on a single tear made its way down the side of his nose and tumbled to the ground. This was the sign from God to me that he knew exactly what was happening in that moment and of the realization of the love that he had been showed. To be honest I’m not too sure if he understood much of what was happening around him but I am grateful that he understood exactly what was going on in that moment. As I returned to outreach to leave back to base, I told the generous volunteers who had bought the shoes exactly what had happened so they could rejoice with me.

That was a blessed ending to a (2-day) long week of outreach for me. Those kinds of moments are found nowhere else but in the loving work of Jesus Christ to a broken world. I encourage you to think about your own life and what loving people means to you and how you need to maybe expand that image a little bit or change some things. If you don’t know how to do that, I encourage you to come and volunteer with us at NYCR. It’s not glorious and certainly not prestigious but I can tell you that it will be one of the most transforming and challenging experiences of your life.

Just another long short week in the books. Man God is so good for letting me do this kind of work. I am still amazed and humbled that he chose me for this!!

As always, I am in need of your prayers. This work is exhausting on every level and it’s only by grace and favor that I push on.

Blessings family,